Feeling Out of Control?

Here’s Why DBT Might Be What You Need!

Have you ever felt like your emotions are running the show—like you’re on a roller coaster that won’t slow down?

Maybe you say things you regret in the heat of the moment. Or shut down completely when emotions get too big. Maybe your relationships are intense, your moods unpredictable, and no matter how hard you try, it feels like too much, too fast, too often.

If this sounds familiar, you may be struggling with undercontrolled coping—and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) could be exactly what you need.

What Is Undercontrolled Coping?

Undercontrolled coping is a pattern where emotions and impulses feel overwhelming or hard to manage. It’s often linked to:

  • – Intense mood swings
  • – Difficulty tolerating distress
  • – Impulsive behaviors (like self-harm, binge eating, substance use)
  • – Struggles with identity or unstable relationships
  • – Feeling emotionally vulnerable or misunderstood

You might be incredibly sensitive and deeply caring—but when things go wrong, your reactions feel “too big” or “too much.” And that’s not because you’re weak—it’s because no one ever gave you the skills to handle emotions this powerful.

What Is DBT, and Why Does It Work?

Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) was developed by Dr. Marsha Linehan to help people who experience chronic emotional dysregulation. It’s especially effective for those with borderline personality disorder, but it’s also been shown to help people dealing with depression, anxiety, PTSD, eating disorders, and more.

DBT is all about teaching you how to feel your emotions without being ruled by them. It combines acceptance (you are doing the best you can) and change (you can learn new ways to cope).

It’s not about “fixing” you—it’s about empowering you with skills to build a life that actually feels worth living.

4 Core Skill Areas of DBT (That Can Change Your Life)

  1. Mindfulness
    Learn to be present in the moment—without judgment. This is the foundation for all other skills. Mindfulness helps you slow down, notice your patterns, and respond instead of react.
  2. Distress Tolerance
    These skills help you survive emotional crises without making things worse. Instead of spiraling or acting impulsively, you’ll learn ways to ride out the storm safely.
  3. Emotion Regulation
    Emotions don’t have to be the enemy. DBT teaches you how to identify, understand, and manage your feelings before they overwhelm you.
  4. Interpersonal Effectiveness
    Learn how to ask for what you need, set boundaries, and maintain relationships—without exploding or shutting down.

Why DBT Is Different

✅ It’s skills-based. DBT gives you a toolbox you can use in real time—not just “talk therapy.”
✅ It balances acceptance and change. You’ll learn to validate your pain and take steps toward healing.
✅ It’s structured. Weekly skills groups, individual therapy, and phone coaching create a strong support system.
✅ It works. DBT is backed by decades of research and used in hospitals, outpatient programs, and even schools.

Who Should Consider DBT?

You don’t have to hit “rock bottom” to benefit from DBT. It can help if you:

  • – Feel overwhelmed by your emotions
  • – Struggle with impulsive behaviors
  • – Experience extreme highs and lows
  • – Have unstable or intense relationships
  • – Feel like you “overreact” or can’t calm down
  • – Want better coping skills but don’t know where to start

Final Thoughts: You’re Not Broken—You’re Underskilled

Here’s the truth: no one teaches us how to handle intense emotions. If you’ve been coping through shutdowns, outbursts, self-harm, or numbing—those were the best tools you had at the time.

DBT doesn’t judge you for that. It simply says: Let’s find new tools together.

You are not “too much.” You are not hopeless. You just need a map, and DBT might be it.

Want to learn more about starting DBT? We have programs commencing four times a year in February, April, July and October. Our individual therapists can usually see you within a week of your initial contact.

You can get in contact with our team via email to intake@dbtclinics.com or go to our appointments page for more options at https://dbtclinics.com/appointments/